As usual, I suppose a rant would be the ultimate motivator to drag me back to my blog. So bare with me on this rant!
I met a friend’s friend during the weekend who started the usual I hate subject/advise on me “Your curvy butt and thighs can make skinny jeans a drag. Instead, choose hip-skimming long dresses/skirts and flashy necklaces that draw the eyes up”.
Now, I personally have an issue with this whole “slimming” claims, primarily because I find it offensively FALSE, insulting to my intelligence and also… well, lets get to the rest of the whys:
1– I’m a BIG chick, with big curves and that’s that. If you intend to give a fashion advise to curvy plus size women do it right, understand who you are talking to, don’t just slap some half assed quality advise for the sake of just doing it. We’re no longer willing or wanting to wear baggy clothes (no, really!), which means we don’t have issues with been FAT like past generations did. Curvy plus sized women today KNOW that they can look elegant, cute or sexy; we have finally learned to be happy with ourselves, for real! We actually like flaunting our curves, this hiding business is OLD, boring and annoying.
2–Clothes won’t magically make me look as if I’m 4 sizes smaller, that’s just a fact. I don’t know how many times I have said that out loud; to random people who like to comment on my cloths, to sales ladies at boutiques and departmental stores, at events & family gatherings etc. Yes, I won’t shut up about it, get it together people, seriously!! Sadly I see that some still perceive women to be 1– too dumb to buy these tag lines or 2– so blindly obsessed with looking thin that any of those key words will make them run to the shop and buy those clothes? Hmm, yeah, might be the combo of both… not me though, thanks.
3–Skinny jeans are not a “drag” to any size as long as they FIT right. In fact if you ask me I find that my big ol’ size 18 butt looks just fine on any pair of the denim you may find in my closet and the word DRAG isn’t really one I would use it to describe it, whether it’s a mini-skirt, dress or jeans… if you’re ought to know dear Lucky-stylists-whoever-you-are.
4-Plus size chicks do look amazing sometime on short skirts! Especially when when we have gorgeous round legs.
Lastly and most importantly I don’t WANT clothes that promise to”slim” me, I’m very happy with my PLUS SIZED BODY. I find that tag line offensive…yes, I have said that already…maybe if I repeat enough times people will get it, because I know I’m not alone on this one!
What I really want and enjoy is shopping for clothes that look good on the body I have. Although it might sound astonishing for some, looking GOOD doesn’t necessarily equate to looking THIN/SMALLER to a lot of us plus sized women. Curves aren’t an embarrassment that we need to wear pieces to diguise’em or use accessories to divert people’s attention from noticing my wide hips. They are there and I find no reason to disguise them (I probably wouldn’t be able to even if I tried, LOL).
And if I sound sensitive about the subject it’s because I probably am. You only know the real deal of taking things like this offensive when you have lived under the skin of being a fat girl your whole life. When you grow up hearing everyone around you constantly telling you that “you would look so pretty if you lost weight” or “you should do a diet” or ”don’t wear this, it makes you look fatter”, bla, bla, bla, then you kinda get tired of stuff like this. My body is not meant to be hidden and I just refuse to do it, so deal with it.
