Thursday 31 May 2012

when you need a fresh coat...


I looked at my toes and noticed what’s left of my last langkawi holiday, the navy blue polish… and wondering when was the last time I had a proper pedi.

By now, I’ve repainted them multiple times. Not taking the time to remove the old, I often paint layers upon layers of polish. Whenever I notice a chip or a flake, I paint a new coat right on top. It’s quicker and easier that way.

It works – if you don’t take a close look at how uneven the chips and layers are over my nails.

It’s quick – for the moment. But later when you actually start with a new color, removing multiple levels of polish takes more time.

Unfortunately, I’m guilty of treating most part of my life the same way.

When unkind words are thrown, I close my eyes to the damage and would rather cover the situation with Racy Red or Timely Turquoise than deal with the flaws. So, I’ve come up with some sound advice for dealing with hurtful situations especially at work/love life.

What to do when your life needs a fresh coat:

1. Let it soak. Sometimes it’s less painful to deal with hurts after they’ve soaked a little. Give it some time. Just don’t decide to ignore the matter and later gloss over it. You may not notice a problem at first, but the humps and bumps will surface when you least expect them.

2. Get rid of the old. When you’re ready to address the problem, apologize for hurtful words or actions you may have caused. Then pour forgiveness over the issues and allow it to dissolve them. You can’t move on until you have created a clean slate. Things can never heal if one or both of you refuse to forgive. Remember it’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong; the real goal is reconciliation.

3. Choose a new color. Select a whole new outlook. Don’t focus on the chipped and brokenness of the past. Instead pick a shade like Poppin’ Pink or Orange You Gonna’ Kiss Me, and try something new.

4. Paint a fresh coat. Start anew with your brand new hue. Brush your life with a renewed/new attitude, covering every aspect. Since the old hurts have been removed, the new color will glide on smooth. You won’t believe how your life will shine!

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.